Being Strung Along While I realize this site is dedicated to intimate relationships. I think it is important for this column to point out that being strung along happens not only in our intimate relationships but also in friendships and families. All are equally destructive, disrespectful and painful. Also, to clarify what it means to be strung along, for my purposes it is when ... View Post
How To Practice Self-Love
Believe you are worthy of love It seems counterintuitive to think we may not believe we deserve love! However, most people walking around today have that belief residing way down in the recesses of their subconscious. When we have a core belief that we do not deserve love we will find our selves unable to attract a partner, or we will find ourselves in relationships with people who are ... View Post
How to Deal with a Smothering Partner
How to Deal with a Smothering Partner Relationships are about accepting people exactly as they are. It is disrespectful, and not our job, to say a person needs to change their faults and flaws in order to be with us. Rather our work is about healing ourselves so we are not hooked by our partner’s defects; either they fit well and their baggage being such that you can accept, or ... View Post
How can I communicate without sounding needy?
How to Communicate Without Being Needy Great communication is such an important tool to have in any relationship! The primary issue that makes it hard is worrying about what others will think about us. The truth is no amount of walking on eggshells will guarantee a favorable outcome. All we can do is our best. If our partners want to understand, meet, or see us ... View Post
Breaking Patterns
Breaking Patterns We are who we attract! Like attracts like and there is no way around that! Oftentimes we don’t see the mirror in our partner because we like to 1) glorify ourselves and 2) the behaviors for the same emotional issues are different. For example, “He is abusive and I am not”, “He is emotionally unavailable and I am not”, therefore we think we are completely ... View Post
Boredom
Boredom Boredom and loneliness are kissing cousins. Whether we are conscious of it or not, when we get into relationships to “have someone to share my life with” or “someone to do things with” there is a boredom/loneliness issue at work. The same holds true if we start dating someone and the relationship changes how we feel about our lives and ourselves. All of the above are ... View Post