Something that has gotten increasingly lost in our society is that there is a difference between having an opinion vs. a bullying attack. In my opinion most of what I see on the Internet and in the media are bullying attacks presented under the guise of “I have a right to express my opinion”. While it is true that we have an amazing gift of freedom of speech to use that gift to attack another is controlling and weak.
Understand this: when someone uses their opinion to shame or belittle another they are purposely trying to take away that individuals freedom of choice!
The difference between the two is clear. An opinion is in deciding what fits, or doesn’t fit, the individual with the opinion. For example (this is a random example not filled with any agenda): I would not wear purple hair, it doesn’t fit me. To be clear, what I think about anyone else who has purple hair just doesn’t matter. To be very honest it is none of my business!
If I take it a step further and say to anyone I see with purple hair, “your hair sucks”, “I don’t think you should be dying your hair”, I am now attacking. I am no longer a person with an opinion I am now a bully.
A good way to look at this is when we use the words “I” or “me” or “my” I am using my Constitutional right to express my opinion. If I include the word “you” I am now a bully trying to control and violate another person’s freedom of choice.
Examples: “Purple hair just wouldn’t work for me” is an opinion.
“I think your purple hair sucks” “you are doing it wrong” is a bullying attack.
Whenever we use violence, name calling, threats or shaming we are not showing our strength or passion we are showing our weakness.
In my opinion, this is the biggest issue facing our country today. It is not politics and government weakening us. We are weakening us! It is time that we start policing our own behavior and our own mouths.
There used to be a sense of social decorum and collective pride that has gone down the wayside and been replaced with a sense of selfish entitlement to say or do anything.
Next time there is an urge to express an opinion about what someone is or is not doing, just remember that unsolicited advice is ineffective. All we can do is keep our own side of the street clean with valid personal opinions and good behavior. Just my opinion.