Grieve as long as it takes There are many times that people stay in unhealthy relationships simply for the fact that they don’t want them to end, when they end the grieving process begins! In our culture we are told we are not doing it right if we grieve. We are told that if we grieve we are “breaking down”, being “weak”, “wearing our heart on our sleeve”, etc. And in this process of judgment ... View Post
Archives for September 2022
I Always Have a Fear of Abandonment and I Am Not Sure How To Overcome This Problem and Have a Safe, Healthy Relationship
Q. When i first start dating a guy, I feel overwhelmed. All day, every day, I find that I am completely distracted with thoughts of him. I can’t concentrate on my work and I find myself hoping that he will call or text me during the day. I’m happy when he does but feel disappointed when he doesn’t. I’m almost 40 years old and yet I feel that I behave like a teenager (inside at least) when it ... View Post
How To Set Boundaries and Not Take Things Personally
Q. In the article you wrote: ‘Set some clear boundaries about what behavior you are not willing to accept. For example, it is not ok to be yelled at, name called, intimidation, violence, hitting or threats of hitting, throwing things, etc.… I tell my clients that it is ok to feel bad it is not ok to act bad!’ Can you please explain how to set boundaries and to stop taking things ... View Post
How To Attract Healthy Love
We are whom we attract! Like attracts like and there is no way around that! Often times we don’t see the mirror in our partner because we like to 1) glorify ourselves and 2) the behaviors for the same emotional issues are different. For example, “He is abusive and I am not”, “He is emotionally unavailable and I am not”, therefore we think we are completely different. But if you look a tiny bit ... View Post
The Balance Beam
Living with balance is vital to our health and happiness. Just as in the world around us we actually need it to physically survive and grow emotionally. One of nature’s well known examples is the ecosystem. For an ecosystem to survive it must be balanced within itself, and if it is not, the system will get sick and eventually die. Humans are no different! For us, balance means a mix of hard ship ... View Post