How to Deal with a Smothering Partner Relationships are about accepting people exactly as they are. It is disrespectful, and not our job, to say a person needs to change their faults and flaws in order to be with us. Rather our work is about healing ourselves so we are not hooked by our partner’s defects; either they fit well and their baggage being such that you can accept, or ... View Post
Archives for November 2022
How To Practice Self-Love
Believe you are worthy of love It seems counterintuitive to think we may not believe we deserve love! However, most people walking around today have that belief residing way down in the recesses of their subconscious. When we have a core belief that we do not deserve love we will find our selves unable to attract a partner, or we will find ourselves in relationships with people who are ... View Post
Being Strung Along
Being Strung Along While I realize this site is dedicated to intimate relationships. I think it is important for this column to point out that being strung along happens not only in our intimate relationships but also in friendships and families. All are equally destructive, disrespectful and painful. Also, to clarify what it means to be strung along, for my purposes it is when ... View Post
Being Single
Being Single One of the dysfunctions of today’s society is the continuous quest to be in a relationship. The philosophy that we are not complete, or validated, until we are mated is really co-dependent neediness in disguise. Common language used to hide the neediness is “I just want someone to share my life with”, or “I don’t need a partner I just like having some one around to do ... View Post
Saying No
How To Say “No” Without Hurting Feelings or Feeling Guilty The word “no” is interesting! It is just two little letters that we have assigned such importance. If you have a hard time saying no without feeling bad then there are two things going on that represent poor boundaries. One is taking responsibility for others emotions and the other is being a people ... View Post
Resilience
Being Resilient Being resilient in a crisis happens best by taking good care of ourselves on a daily basis. Think of it this way, when we are balanced we are our most resilient. But does that mean if you are not balanced there is no hope? No, it just makes it a bit harder. To achieve or maintain resilience it is important to have some daily rituals for ... View Post