Q. In the article you wrote: ‘Set some clear boundaries about what behavior you are not willing to accept. For example, it is not ok to be yelled at, name called, intimidation, violence, hitting or threats of hitting, throwing things, etc.… I tell my clients that it is ok to feel bad it is not ok to act bad!’ Can you please explain how to set boundaries and to stop taking things ... View Post
How To Attract Healthy Love
We are whom we attract! Like attracts like and there is no way around that! Often times we don’t see the mirror in our partner because we like to 1) glorify ourselves and 2) the behaviors for the same emotional issues are different. For example, “He is abusive and I am not”, “He is emotionally unavailable and I am not”, therefore we think we are completely different. But if you look a tiny bit ... View Post
The Balance Beam
Living with balance is vital to our health and happiness. Just as in the world around us we actually need it to physically survive and grow emotionally. One of nature’s well known examples is the ecosystem. For an ecosystem to survive it must be balanced within itself, and if it is not, the system will get sick and eventually die. Humans are no different! For us, balance means a mix of hard ship ... View Post
Mosaic Patterns
Recently, I was working with a man who seemingly has all life has to offer. With lots of money, he owns his own business, has a great wife, good kids, and enough freedom and money to do whatever he wants yet, he is unhappy. His misery is so ingrained that he has come to accept his pain as just the way it is. However, one of his strengths is that he learned to channel the energy/anxiety from this ... View Post
The Journey
If the eyes are the windows into our souls, then what I see is very sad for most people walking the streets. For me, it is sad to see the light behind the eyes of so many people dimmed or distinguished. This is a group that spiritual leaders call the walking dead. We get this way by being so beaten down with our own emotional baggage that the way to physical, emotional and spiritual contentment is ... View Post
Fearless Change?
Have you ever noticed how people react to the word change ? It is interesting to watch people’s physical reaction when they hear the word. Their eyes may glaze over, any smile that once was vanishes, and arms may fold in a defensive posture. Have you ever wondered why it strikes such a deep chord in most of us? Especially since change is something that we are all doing every minute of the day, ... View Post